How can life coaching help?

Often when you are so involved in a situation it is difficult to take a step back and see a way out. As a life coach I am able to offer you a "fresh pair of eyes". I am able to share with you a totally unbiased, non-judgmental view to help you see the light at the end of the tunnel. I am committed to helping you take these positive first steps on the road to a happier life.

 

Keep the good things in your life and remove the bad or negative things (be honest!) .Every time you delete a bad/ negative thing in your life it makes way for something good or positive. Do not keep looking back and dwelling on your mistakes learn from them and move on.

 

You must, at all times, keep in mind your morals and principles that are dear to you. It doesn't matter if the changes in your life were made by you or forced upon you whether the changes needed are big or small to benefit you. Whatever stage you are at in your life regardless of circumstances,education or background it is possible to make these changes.

 

With the correct help and support you will be able to achieve the changes you seek.

 

 

Social Influence

 

As a child, most of us had ideas and dreams of what we wanted to be when we grew up; a fireman, doctor or pilot perhaps. Some may have achieved this whilst for many of us it remains and has always been until now a dream.

 

Most of us love our family and friends but sometimes they are not always the best choice for guidance. Not knowingly they can negatively influence our decisions. Sentences such as ‘oh no dear, I don’t think that’s a good idea’ or ‘my friend did that and it was awful’ or simply ,‘you couldn’t possibly do that’. Thoughtless comments like this whilst not intentionally meant to hurt us or send us off on a different track often do.

 

If people can have such a negative effect on you then surely there are also people that can have a positive effect on you. This is where I as a Life Coach am able to look at your situation and help you decide in which direction to move forward to. If we look at the world, many successful people have ‘coaches’ these help people become great and spot weaknesses. They encourage people to strive for their full potential i.e. Football Players, Tennis Players. In the business world many have ‘mentors’ helping in much the same way as a Coach.

 

A Life Coach therefore is not that unusual, why not take the first step and get in contact and by doing so you may have that life that you only dreamed of as a child.

 

Children

* Do your children rule the roost?

* Do you feel that sometimes they are unbearable – rude, badly behaved, messy, lazy?

 

Don’t panic!! Most children go through one if not all of the above at one stage or another (sadly!). It is how you deal with it and how you react and handle the situation that makes the changes required to help them get through these difficult stages of growing up, and in doing so help keep your sanity!

 

We have all seen or heard about the television program’s relating to ‘troublesome’ children. It appears that when people have problems they call for a ‘super nanny’ or a Child Psychologist. In the majority of cases these ‘specialists’ end up coaching the parents more than the children thus enabling the parents to gain an understanding of their children and hence enable them to relate to their children. In doing this they are able to learn how to respond without antagonizing the situation.

 

Finances

Money worries and debts can over shadow and often rule our lives if we are not careful. Today’s society is very much geared towards credit cards and loans with carrots being dangled of 0% interest for so many months etc. It is far to easy to sign up for finance deals thinking that we can easily pay it off. However many of us find that this is a dangerous downward spiral that so easily can get out of control forcing us to borrow more and more money to pay off the original debts. Money worries can create a lot of stress and put huge amounts of pressure on a relationship. Money worries can affect many other areas of your life forming a black cloud hanging over everything that you do.

At this point I must make it clear I am not a financial expert but I can help you to figure a way out of your financial difficulties and point you in the right direction for financial experts. I am able to help you budget effectively and support you through these difficult and often emotional filled times, ultimately helping disperse the black cloud and work towards a more positive future.

The sooner you act the sooner you take control of your life again.

 

Homelife

Many of us will go through difficult stages in our lives it is rare that throughout these times we will always see 100% eye to eye with our families and partners no matter how close we are .

 

In fact often we end up working against each other. Day to day stresses such as finances, children and work all contribute to pressure on our relationships.

 

Learn how to slow down and actually hear what each other is saying so you can enjoy working together and get quicker results.

 

Emotions

Many people think that there are only a certain set of emotions, i.e. happy, sad. This is true to an extent but within these there are many different levels. Each emotion needs to be recognized as you go through the healing process. They need to be explored and overcome. Think of emotions as steps on a ladder. Each emotion you explore, accept and deal with is a step up towards the top.

I can help you accept and deal with these negative emotions .

 

Learn how to move through each emotion and leave them in the past so they don't hinder your future.

 

Loneliness

It is unlikely that we are able to go through life without at one time or another having a sense of loneliness. Loneliness is not just being alone; it is much more than this. Have you ever experienced the feeling of being in a room full of people yet feeling alone? Perhaps you have been or are in a relationship yet feel isolated? Loneliness can often lead to many negative effects including low self-esteem, feelings of isolation and unhappiness, a feeling that nobody likes you and perhaps even leading to avoidance of meeting new people or attending public events. This in itself will only lead to a downward spiral. There are many ways that I can help you overcome this feeling , and leave you with the tools and knowledge to cope with it.

 

Parents away from children

Whether you are a parent with whom the children live or a parent who has limited or no access to their children, you are and always will be their mum/dad. If you can, picture a time before the split when the children were perhaps away with friends, you didn’t stop being mum/dad for this period and you will not stop being mum/dad now.

 

Try to learn how to cope and understand why . See what changes you can make that could possibly help you. See what the best options are for you and your child/children.

 

Single Parenting

Being a single parent whether by your own choice or circumstances beyond your control is an extremely hard, tiring and often, in some opinions, unrewarding. It is easy to feel isolated from the ‘outside world’ and can leave you wondering if you will ever have an adult conversation again!

 

The term ‘baggage’ is often banded around and used as a blanket statement when referring to children whilst looking at possible new relationships.

 

Children are not baggage, they are assets which bring you joy and happiness, they make you laugh and keep you young. I can help teach you to enjoy being a parent. I can help you gain focus and give you a direction, give you the knowledge and help you on the way to achieving a positive, happy and enjoyable future with your children.